10 Practical Things Every Homeschooler Should Know

This an old post but as we are a couple months of school and I have talked to several Moms who are struggling, I thought I would post this again...



I have been talking to and seeing on message boards homeschool Moms discouraged about their first weeks of school. The kids are whiny and complaining, no one likes their curriculum and all the Mom is doing is putting out fires, not teaching. This is especially true of new homeschoolers. Where are the idyllic days spent reading with their child or making amazing lapbooks or crafting an amazing project based on what they are reading in history? They have heard about other homeschoolers getting all of this done and more. Why does it seem like it is a constant battle just to get math and Language Arts done? Why don't the kids seem to be enjoying the great projects that Mom has loving prepared? What has happened to the beautiful lessons plans that Mom has slaved over? Homeschooling is hard.
Don't worry and take heart. The first weeks of school are always the worst - sometimes even the first two months are bad. It takes everyone awhile to get used to this new regime. For a regime change has occurred especially if the child has previously been in a traditional school setting. Life has changed and there are new rules in place.
Don't change curriculum in the first two months for it may be less about curriculum and more about character training. It is more likely to be more about testing Mom than in a bad test score. It may be about seeing if Mom is really serious about this schedule than about whether the new schedule works. It may be about expectations, both Moms and the kids. So don't jump ship until the seas stop rocking and then you can take a serious look at what's working and what's not.
Here are some practical things that I have found to be helpful:
1. There is absolutely no whining or complaining in school. period. Teach your child Phil. 2:14-16. God doesn't like it ( and neither does Mom) so don't do it.
2. Have consequences pre-planned for whining and a lack of diligence. If you whine in our house or are not diligent in your work - you get more work but if you are, you get a marble in your jar which at a certain level will reward you with a special treat of some kind. This method works great with older kids, try a treasure box with pre-K - 2nd, filled with cheap little toys. Make sure and find something to reward your child with daily.
3. Have realistic expectations. A child will not sit quietly and let you read to them for hours. I learned this hard way. Let them play quietly with legos or color or draw while you read, it will go better.
4. Start school slowly. Add in the basics the first week, then slowly add in everything else. You will all be happier - trust me.
5. Plan fun things if the kids have been diligent. If the kids work diligently then take them out for an ice cream or better yet wait until Dad is home and give him the good report and then Dad can take them out while you have a bath.
6. Don't compare your homeschool with someone else's. Your friend, who homeschools, does not always have her act together either. Her house is not always clean and her husband does not always come home to a well-prepared dinner and her children do not sing like the VonTrapp's.
7. School time is sacred. Don't take phone calls, don't plan Bible studies, don't answer the door. It's your number one job for that time period. Limit outside activities during school hours. I don't do anything in school time, not co-op, not piano not anything. That's what the afternoon is for.
8. Have an ending time. School ends at this time - no matter what. Pick up where you left off the next day. Do your most important subjects first. I have a four day schedule so that I can use Fridays for pick up subjects.
9. Schedule time for cleaning and laundry and dinner prep. Most of my housework happens on Friday. Look at flylady.net for help in scheduling housework. Check out allrecipes.com for great slow cooker recipes. Dinner is done and you don't have to worry about it.
10. Make time for yourself and your husband. Schedule dates and keep them. Go out with your girlfriends or even just call them (after school of course). Have a mandated quiet time each afternoon, everybody goes to their room for atleast and hour - including you.
Homeschooling is hard but so is every good thing. Parenting is hard, marriage is hard, being a Christ-follower is hard but they are worth all the pain, sweat and tears I put into them. Homeschooling is the same way. More than worth it. There is nothing that I would rather do then to train and teach my children so that they will be ready for whatever amazing plan God has for them.
Have some other ideas that help you? Please let me know, my homeschool isn't perfect either and I could use all the help I can get.

Homeschool Fun

Making a worm habitat.

Mapping the neighborhood to show how maps are made.

Candy clay map.

Coloring paper dolls from around the world - showing that God loves the whole world.

Documenting the back yard habitat.

It's important to have fun in school. It makes such great memories and sometimes they are learning while having fun. I love MFW for that very reason - they schedule fun into the curriculum. I love that - scheduled fun while learning. Does it get any better than that? I don't think so. Oh, to make it more palatable to our teacher sensibilities, technically, it's hands-on activities - not fun.

I may change the scheduled fun activity a bit or tweak it, but because it's scheduled in, I feel compelled to follow the TM and make time for it even if the floor needs washed or laundry folded. Sometimes, I need the reminder to do something fun and that kids often learn more from the fun activities ( ummm, hands-on activities) than from when I am reading to them or are having them narrate ( shocking, I know!).

My kids have played, I mean worked, for hours now with some candy clay I made to make globes and maps of the 7 continents and an accurate map of the street. I have planned dinner, made muffins, called a friend and am now wasting time on the computer. We love learning.

If you are home schooling , or even if you are not, mix learning with fun, you'll be amazed at the results.

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Part of the Body

Caileigh and Collin have been studying the body in school, our physical body as well as the body of Christ, the church. Often, I get a little sidetracked especially in Bible, today was such a day but I felt the need to share. Yesterday I read another article on MSN about the decline of church attendance, especially in the late teens and early twenties age group. This morning as we were talking about the body of Christ all the pieces that had been floating around in my head clicked.

I want my children to know that they were created on purpose by a purposeful God for a purpose. God has a plan for their lives and He has great things in store for them if they stay in His will (not leave the church as young people). Psalm 139 says,

3

For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother's womb.

14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.

15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place.
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,

16 your eyes saw my unformed body.
All the days ordained for me
were written in your book
before one of them came to be.

God made them for a purpose, to do His will and work for Him. We then went on to read, Romans 12:4-5,

Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, 5so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others.

Just as the body (we used a model of the human body to show this part) has a specific job so does the members of the body of Christ.

Corinthians 12 says this about the body,

4Now the body is not made up of one part but of many. 15If the foot should say, "Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body," it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. 16And if the ear should say, "Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body," it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. 17If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? 18But in fact God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. 19If they were all one part, where would the body be? 20As it is, there are many parts, but one body.

21The eye cannot say to the hand, "I don't need you!" And the head cannot say to the feet, "I don't need you!"

Using the body model we took pieces of the body out and played with this thought for a time (also teaching science - I love multi-tasking). What does the heart do? does the body need it to survive? What about the lungs, or the hands, or the stomach, or the eyes? Our bodies need all of its parts. God designed the parts to fit together and to work together. Without the different parts of our body we don't function properly, as God designed. So with the body of Christ, the church. The church does not function properly without all of its parts and God designed each of us with different gifts to fulfill the role of a part of His body. From the womb, He designed us to have certain gifts and personalities to fulfill the role He has for us. What a glorious thought! We were designed for a purpose and He has fitted us each differently for different purposes. I love that! I love that God designed my kids to fulfill a purpose that will bless His body.

As I was sharing this today, my kids faces lit up with the thought that God has a wonderful plan for their lives. (This was also a great chance to mention staying obedient to stay in the center of His purpose. I never want to lose an opportunity to mention staying obedient!) I want my kids to go through life knowing that there is a purpose for their lives and that just one person can affect the world for Him. I never want them to question that they were designed by God to be the way they are. I want to know that too! I want them to know that if they leave the body, it will suffer and they will suffer. Staying in the center of God's will is the best place for them to be, no matter what age they are or what stage in life.

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Skip Counting

This school year we changed Math curriculum to Singapore Math after much research and thought. They all have done very well although Connor and I have had to get used to some new thought processes. The twins have done very well and have enjoyed the way Singapore introduces topics. Recently, they started learning skip counting as a pre-requisite to multiplication and division. This week they started multiplication and division and I have to say that skip counting has made the transition flawlessly.

If you are not familiar with skip counting, basically it's counting by 2's, 3's,4,'s etc. through the 12's. For instance, 4,8,12,16,20,24,28,32,36,40.

I taught these to the twins using m&m's. I first placed two m&m's per group for ten groups and then we counted them together. Once they memorized the 2's we moved onto the group (oh and ate the well deserved m&m's - for 2's they received 2, 3's they received 3 etc.) This made a very easy transition into multiplication, as 2 groups of 2 is 4 (or 2,2's) or 5 groups of 5 is 25. Division was a similar transition, if we had 15 m&m's and we all wanted an equal share how many would we each get? Once they divided the m&m's and ate their share, the concept of division was a breeze.

I wish I had taught Connor this way. It would have made these concepts much easier, I think he wishes I would have taught him this way as well! He would have had many more m&m's.

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Missing the point?

Wow! I am amazed at the responses I have received from my previous postings. I appreciate all the comments even when the viewpoint differs from my own. While I think that creationism is an important, worthy and stirring debate ( and I enjoy a good debate as long as everyone still remembers the golden rule), I find it interesting that none of the comments have spoken to my original point. Why are children leaving the church in droves? What are we teaching our children? Or are we so concerned with our viewpoints that we are missing opportunities to train our children? Are we sending our children to schools that are inundated with secular humanism and then failing to train them at home? Are we sharing our worldview and how to tell the difference between the warring worldviews? There is a battle going on and we will lose the children if we are not pro-active in our training.

Just this morning, I had the opportunity to talk with my children about a pre-school cartoon's casual use of the theory of evolution as a fact. I still maintain that we need to teach our children that God can do what He says He can do and we need to be very careful to teach our children that the Bible is the inspired word of God and that the Bible's authority reigns supreme over what man says, every time. If this offends some, I am sorry for the offense but not the belief behind them. If God is big enough to forgive me for my sins then He is big enough to create the world (pre-fall) without death and destruction as evolution maintains.

I want to see us raise a Godly generation of children ready and able to bring glory to God and to be tools that God can use to bring others to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ. Otherwise, our debate could rage on but really, what's the point if our children go to hell?

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A Case for Homeschooling

We homeschool our three children and while we understand that there are other good educational choices, we believe that no one understands our children like we do or can beat the one on one attention that a parent can give.

One reason that our oldest so favors homeschooling is that he has more time to pursue other interests - like inventing! While reading a George MacDonald book (yes, another ) I came across this quote,

"Mr. Simon never gave Cosmo anything to do at home, believing it the imperative duty of a teacher to leave room for a youngster to grow on his own, and that what a boy does by himself is of greater importance that what he does with any teacher. Such leisure time may be of rather small consequence for the multitude of boys, but it is absolutely necessary wherever one is born with a creative individuality."

So, we limit T.V. time and only allow video games with Daddy as a special treat and try to surround our kids with educational toys and books that strike our children's interest. We work hard in school for approx. 4 hours a day and then let our children have the freedom to grow on their own. Try it, you might be surprised what creative genius lies in your children.

For more information on homeschooling you can go to www.chec.org or nationally at www.hslda.org.

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